"You Have Cancer!" No one wants to hear these three words. No matter what you may or may not think, your life is about to change. From this point on, you will be faced with many decisions. It is important for you to have people around you to support you with whatever you decide. Never forget that it is your life and you need to choose what is best for you. I know because I have had cancer twice, cervical cancer and non-hodgkins lymphoma. I have had natural and conventional treatments. I learned about many things to support my healing and this blog tells about some of these things. My biggest advice to you or anyone you know who has cancer is to not be afraid. Stay positive. Live your life. Be quick to forgive and love those around you. Laugh. Cancer is not the end; it is just the beginning.
Now if you listen closely
I’ll tell you what I know
Storm clouds are gathering
The wind is gonna blow
The race of man is suffering
And I can hear the moan,
Can make it out here alone.
This is an excerpt from a poem entitled "Alone" written by Maya Angelou. It is the basic need of humans to have people around them that this poem stresses. To see the world slowly moving away from the value that others play in our lives is a very sad thing indeed.
And it is extremely important for the cancer patient to recognize that he/she needs to have people who will come along side and be there for them. This is not a time to be alone. It is healthy to verbalize what you are feeling and talk about it with someone you can trust. I recognize that there may be times when you do not want to talk. But just having people around that care and will listen is extremely helpful to your well being and ultimately your healing.
I just listened to a cancer lecture by Dr. Francisco Contreras that I found intriguing.
In it he emphasizes that any cancer approach should involve no harm to the patient and that one should love themselves. We need to love ourselves enough to take care of our body. He discusses eating healthy food, getting proper rest, exercising, taking time to enjoy life, and laughing more.
He said "There is misinterpretation when dealing with cancers. 95% of money and time is spent on getting rid of the tumour and 5% of money and time is spent on the patient. The tumour is NOT the issue. It should be 95% of money and time spent on the patient and only 5% of money and time spent on the tumour."
His key point through out was that it is more important that the spiritual and emotional needs of the patient are met first, because they are eternal.
He states, "Do No Harm and Love Yourself!"
Practice the Pause!
When in doubt, Pause.
When angry, Pause.
When tired, Pause.
When frustrated, Pause.
When stressed, Pause.
And when you Pause, Pray.
Because in every encounter, we either give LIFE, or we drain it. There is no neutral exchange.
- from Toby Mac at Speak Life
Such sound advice! I know that I have said things and then wished I hadn't, especially when experiencing some of the emotions mentioned above. Let's take time to think before we speak.
To quote the words of King Solomon "Death and life are in the power of the tongue."
I have been watching The Truth About Cancer series with Ty Bolinger on the computer. This is an amazing event happening in Florida and you can watch it live on your computer. The most up to date information on cancer and alternative cancer therapies are being shared. This is something you do not want to miss if you or a loved one has cancer. Doctors from all around the world are participating.
Go to https://go2.thetruthaboutcancer.com/2017-live-event/watch/
I have just recently read about a lady named Kris Karr who was diagnosed in 2003 with a stage 1V cancer of which there is no treatment. To this day, she is vibrant and healthy looking. She is choosing to monitor carefully what she eats and how she lives. What a testimony for those living with this disease!
I, too, am living proof that one can live a relatively normal and healthy life with cancer. I was diagnosed with Non-Hodgkins Lymphoma, Stage 3, aggressive, in 2001 and decided not to take conventional treatment. For the next 2 years, I continued to teach kindergarten. I had never felt better as I changed my diet completely, to an almost vegan diet, and altered my lifestyle to be less stressful and include more relaxation. A 2nd CT scan, four months later, showed that indeed my tumours were shrinking.
Then, I retired as an elementary school teacher and we moved to B.C. from Ontario. For the next 3 years, I worked in a preschool, travelled to Israel, and enjoyed the arrival of my four grandchildren.
In 2006, I did end up taking chemotherapy. You can read more about this in my book "TWICE Lessons, Insights and Healing from Cancer. The point of this blog is to encourage those who are or will be diagnosed with cancer. Cancer is not always a death sentence. Cancer can be beaten or at the very least you can live with it. So never give up!
“We are masters of the unsaid words, but slaves of those we let slip out.”- Winston Churchill
How many times have we said something and then wished we hadn't? I believe it is especially important to watch what we say when we have a cancer diagnosis or any type of disease. When we think and speak negatively, it affects how we act and view any situation. Take for instance the person who has been told, after a cancer diagnosis, that he/she has only a certain amount of time left to live. True to the doctors words, often people will die within the given time frame. Why is that? No one can really know; but I believe that they took those words "to heart". Perhaps, they felt hopeless. Speaking negatively about a situation just comes naturally to us because it is human nature. To speak positively about a situation requires a deliberate decision. What we need to understand is that whatever we say is a reflection of our heart attitude. In other words, our words are simply an overflow of what is in our heart. If I am going to think poorly about my situation, I will speak poorly about it. On the other hand, if I think positively about my situation, I will speak positively about it.
There is good advice here as well for the person who is supporting someone. Be careful that you do not speak negative thoughts that would place an extra burden on the one who is ill. Be ready with positive words that will strengthen and encourage.
What an amazing clip! So inspiring. Never give up!
We all have a purpose and a plan to fullfil. I don't know where I found this; but it has some good advice.
1. Take a 10 -30 minute walk every day & while you walk, SMILE!
2. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.
3. When you wake up in the morning, complete the following statement, "My purpose today is to .... today."
4. Live with the three E's.....Energy, Enthusiasm, Empathy and the F's....Faith, Family & Friends
5. Spend more time with people over the age of 70 and under the age of 6.
6. Dream more while you are awake.
7. Try to make at least 3 people smile each day.
8. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of life that appear and fade away like algebra class, but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
9. Smile and laugh more. It will keep the energy vampires away.
10. Life isn't fair but it's still good.
11. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
12. Don't take yourself too seriously. No one else does.
13. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagreements.
14. Make peace with the past; so it won't mess up the present.
15. Don't compare your life with others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
16. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
17. Forgive everyone for everything.
18. Burn the candles. Use the nice sheets. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
Following Valentine's Day, I wonder
Do you believe in love at first sight?
I can't say that I really know the answer to this question; but I would venture to say "No".
I think what happens at first sight is infatuation and that can definitely lead to love. But I question whether it happens instantly. To really love someone, you need to know who they are.
When I first met my husband, I thought I was in love. He was tall, dark and handsome, kind of looked like Elvis Presley to me. On our first date, we went to my prom and danced all night; then afterwards we ate pizza with my brother and his date. At the end of the night, he kissed me at the door. I can tell you I thought I was in love. I was in love with how he made me feel, not who he was. I didn't even know him.
We have been married for over 48 years now and I can tell you that I do love this man. I love my husband for who he is. He is a man of integrity, kind, caring, supportive, and a good provider. He is my friend and I can trust him to be there for me.
What do you think about love at first sight? I would love to hear your comments.
"When you love someone, you love the whole person, just as he or she is, and not as you would like them to be.” a quote from the book Anna Karenina by Leo Tolstoy
Today is Valentine's day and many people will receive gifts of flowers, candy, cards, etc. items to show their love for the other person. Some will choose this day to become engaged as a remembrance of their love for one another. Love is something that we all desperately need. Studies have shown that babies do not develop properly unless given love. Children and teenagers unacceptable behaviour can often be traced back to a lack of love. Relationships die, divorces happen, because people don't love each other any more. Old people in nursing homes, lonely and sometimes forgotten, are starving for love and often die of a broken heart.
Why is it that love comes easy to some people; while others find it difficult to achieve? What is love?
The Bible describes love in the book of Corinthians and this passage is often cited at weddings. Love is not a feeling. Love is an action. Love is a choice. If you want to experience true love, you must be willing to accept people as they are. To experience true unconditional love; we must not put conditions on it.
Reach out to someone today! Call that friend you've been meaning to touch base with. Smile at a stranger!
Tell your child, teenager, mom, dad, wife or husband that you love them. Plan a special outing.
The best story of unconditional love is told in the Bible. God sent his Son, Jesus, to die for us. There is no greater love than this.
Have a great Valentine's Day!